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Flourish or Flounder – Outlook matters

We all want to flourish in life, even when it doesn’t look possible. When a project looks bleak, we don’t think it is a matter of attitude but research is proving that it is.  Not just that it is a matter of perspective, but that our general attitude drastically impacts the results we get.

Research has been done on the relationship of positive feelings vs. negative feelings and the impact on both relationships and productivity.  Many of these research projects have concluded the same general idea; a positive attitude has a positive effect on productivity and relationships.

So lets look at the details of the best ratio to get optimum results in your life.  Dr. Marcial Losada, among others, has come up with an optimum ratio.   The Losada ratio is the sum of the positivity in a system divided by the sum of its negativity. A ratio of 3.0 to 6.0 has been found to be highly correlated with high performance. The Losada ratio is also known as the positivity ratio, Gottman ratio, and Losada line.

So here’ the magic ratio chart.

It is significant to notice that if for every positive thought we have a negative thought, we are in danger!!!  It is not enough to be equal in your thinking and your subsequent feelings. In order to make progress you must have 3-6 positive thoughts/feelings for every negative one.

Here’s how it breaks down:

A business team with 5x more positivity than negativity is significantly more likely to make money.

A marriage with 5x more positivity than negativity is significantly less likely to result in divorce.

College students with 3x more positivity than negativity are significantly more likely to have flourishing mental health.

In general – when a human system contains 3 to 5x as much positivity as negativity, it is significantly more likely to thrive.

Now is the time to ask yourself how you can accomplish this ratio. For the most part, we have been trained to be problem solvers. That means that we look for problems as our default mode. This is a real asset if you are in an emergency situation and you need to figure out the source of the problem. Fires need to be put out, leaks that cause floods need to be found and plugged. But this practiced skill, or default mode, could be the core of a floundering business, product, department or even marriage.

In order to up your chances of flourishing, it may be necessary to experience something new. Neuroplasticity is a concept in neuroscience: the brain alters itself every time it learns something. In this conversation, it reinforces the idea that your brain has developed a pattern that is familiar and practiced so it is really easy for you to think the same thoughts resulting in the same feelings today as you did yesterday. In favor of rewiring your brain so that you can more easily shift your thoughts and feelings, a change is called for. So what are you going to do today to break the patterns of all of your yesterdays?

Many people choose meditation, yoga, exercise or relaxation techniques in order to try to get a handle on controlling their thoughts and mood. Given that our understanding of a “normal” experience is less than 3 times as much positivity to negativity. Most people don’t actually achieve a positivity to negativity ratio that results in a thriving business or a spectacular marriage. 

I welcome you to email me your thoughts on how you hope to achieve a better outlook.  
If you would like help putting together a plan so you can achieve your goals, grab a spot on my calendar and we can discuss it.

Until Soon,
Donnalynn Riley

PS. I have a wonderful training about my business relationship system to help improve productivity.  Enjoy!
October 3, 2016

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